Getting Gigli with It: Women Want Ben Affleck's Baby

Clearly mesmerized by his adorable celebabe Violet, female clients of the California Cryobank sperm bank are "Good Will Hunting" for donors who look like Ben Affleck.

(I'm guessing they haven't seen "Daredevil.")

The actor/director/serial Jennifer-romancer was named the most popular choice at the sperm factory, which lets clients request donors who resemble celebrities as varied as Tom Cruise and, er, Rick Moranis, the Telegraph reports.

"There are more men out there who look like Rick Moranis than Brad Pitt," a Cryobank spokesman explained.

The Cryobank had to "retire" a David Beckham lookalike's little swimmers due to high demand. Guess Affleck is the next best thing.

Now that's pretty depressing.

Gonna Make You Sweat! Women Can Detect Man's Attraction by His Sweat

Open those nostrils wide, gals.

According to a new study from Rice University, the smell of a man's sweat signals his attraction, the Telegraph reports.

Um...yay?

Dr. Denise Chen classified two groups of sweat for the purposes of her study: "normal" sweat, which was produced by males watching educational videos (zzzz) and "sexual" sweat, produced by dudes watching sexually explicit videos (!!!!).

When asked to smell the two varieties, women's brain activity responded to the sexual sweat, suggesting that women, albeit subconsciously, can sniff out whether or not a man is attracted to her.

That's the good news. The bad news: Having to get a whiff of his armpit juice.

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10 Do’s and Don’ts of Flirting in the 21st Century

1. Do: Crack open your dictionary. Spell check was invented for a reason. Using sloppy spelling and grammar in your emails and texts can suggest that you're not the sharpest knife in the drawer.

2. Don't: Change your Facebook relationship status. Unless, of course, you are in a serious committed relationship and want the whole world to know. Still, leaving your relationship status off your profile all together will afford you more privacy and help you avoid the dreaded broken heart single icon.

3. Do: Be open-minded. Smitten with a blogger or Twitter commenter? It's not unheard of for people to forge relationships online through shared interests. Don't bombard their comments section with valentines, but do feel free to casually compliment their writing or stance on a certain issue. You never know—they might write back!

4. Don't: Attack them from all sides. Just because you know a person's cell phone, email, work number, and Facebook profile doesn't mean you need to use them all. If a person says to call them, call them. If they email you, email back. Don't leave messages on their Facebook wall and multiple voice mails unless it's an absolute emergency (read: their house is burning down). Play it cool, and don't look needy.

5. Do: Know when to end the conversation. If your crush is sending you short emails or texts that don't really require further comment, it's probably an indication that they are busy and need to wrap the conversation up—especially at work. Don't continue to try to engage them in a flirty banter if they're not reciprocating.

6. Don't: Post or send anything you're not prepared to defend. Trying to make the moves on that hot new girl at the office? You might want to take down the photos of you locking lips with those co-eds last weekend. Realize that anything on the Internet is public, so think before you post something that might cast you in a bad light. The same goes for emails—don't write anything incriminating or explicit, especially when using your work account. Everything leaves a trace!

7. Do: Unleash your inner Cyrano. Email can be a great tool for people with a natural flair with the written word. If you're a little shy or tongue-tied in person, try using email to gain a more comfortable arena in which to display your sense of humor and way with words. Let that personality shine through!

8. Don't: Regress to your junior high days. Emoticons and textspeak, though common, do little to earn you points for sophistication. For many people, they are seen as cheesy, infantile, and borderline idiotic. In other words, leave the "c u l8r" talk to the tweens.

9. Do: Double (and triple) check that you're sending something to the right person. Did that raunchy text go to your dad, and not your date? Oops! Next time be ABSOLUTELY sure that you are sending that email, IM, or text to the intended recipient.

10. Don't: Text or call your date the second you leave them. Look, we get it—you have an iPhone. Good for you. But just because you have the ability to instantly contact your date before they've even gotten into their car doesn't mean you should. Don't look desperate or needy.

For more tips, check out Dating Dossier: Flirting in the 21^st Century on iTunes.

The "Play" List: Lissy Trullie was Made for Lovin' You

Need more sexy music for your shenanigans? This week’s “Play” List pick is Lissy Trullie’s rendition of “Ready for the Floor.” Though the Hot Chip original is what I’ll listen to when I’m getting ready for a date/big night out with the gals and need to be pumped up, Trullie’s sultry, slower, Chrissie Hynde-esque take is much more appropriate for passionate clinches on the couch.

The "Play" List: Songs to Get Busy To

In this regular Dating Dossier feature, we'll be offering recommendations for songs that can help set the mood on your next date or, er, "sleepover." Let's be honest--Barry White just isn't cutting it these days, and we've all had our fill of Sade. So without further adieu, let's jump to this week's pick:

"Staring at the Sun" by TV on the Radio

Any song that includes the lyric "the lover is inside" isn't messing around. The Brooklyn-based group gets soulful with this tune, best enjoyed with the lights off and a shot of premier tequila working its way down your throat. Trust me.

Dating Homework: Bastille Day Edition

Step 1: Go look at a calendar.

Step 2: Observe that it is Bastille Day. Pause to make a nasally French throat-clearing noise.

Step 3: Throw on a simple and chic striped top, fitted skinny jeans or Audrey Hepburn-esque capris, and a thin cotton scarf for layering. Let your hair fall naturally and go easy on the makeup. Refer to Garance Doré or a Google Image search of Charlotte Gainsbourg for further style instructions.

Step 4: Round up your pals for a bottle of vino at your favorite French café. Keep your mouth full of Camembert and keep your ears alert to the sound of a husky French accent. Once you’ve found your Serge (or better yet, Olivier), invite him over for a little French language lesson…or just a wine recommendation. If nothing else, wish him a happy Bastille Day.

Step 5: Be prepared to answer the inevitable question: Voulez-vous coucher avec moi ce soir?

See Dating Dossier: Confidence for more sexy ice-breakers.

Ask Dating Dossier: The Big Tease

Q. I've been hanging out with my brother's best friend over the last month or so, and we have been having a great time. In the beginning, he mentioned that he usually doesn't date a girl after the third date because he has to share personal information. So, we have been hanging out and during the second date, he extended the date and was coming up with some fun things to do and he was like, tell your brother that I took you shooting because I want to see his reaction. I thought that he was basically trying to find out his reaction to us hanging out without asking him. He seemed fine with us hanging out.

I saw him before my brother came into town (third date per se), but he totally did a 180 on the things he had been saying. I totally thought it was because my brother was coming into town and the third date thing, even though we have never really said we are dating. Well, my brother, his friend, his wife and her son and I all went to the zoo, and we had a good time. He gave me a hug and was like I'll see you soon. My brother said, "You and he are adults and you can do whatever you like. You don't need my approval.” He said this after we left his friend. Anyways, I have been doing most of the asking, so I've decided not to force it and sit back to see what he does. I'm trying to figure out what the next step should be. Any suggestions?

A. Dating Dossier is all about calling it like I see it, and this is how I see your beau/bro’s bro: he’s a tease, my dear. Now, I don’t know the exact nature of your “hanging out” over the last month (Kissing? Snuggling? Clinking wine glasses in front of a roaring fireplace while Hall and Oates softly plays in the background? Or are you literally going to a gun range?), but it sounds like this guy is shooting blanks in the romance department. The third date confession is a red flag to me. He’s basically telling you up front that he has an expiration date. Throw in the fact that he doesn’t like to “share personal information,” and that he takes you shooting, and I’m thinking this guy is either in the Witness Protection Program or thinks he’s Steven Seagal. Can you see plastic surgery scars, or does he wear a kimono and a short ponytail?

It also sounds like this guy is using your brother as an excuse. Maybe he’s genuinely worried about violating some unspoken man law, but from what you say it sounds as if your brother is a reasonable person. It’s a little odd that he wanted to see your brother’s reaction first. Maybe he found the risk of upsetting your brother a little exciting, which spurred him on. Maybe now that you have your brother’s blessing, it kills the thrill for him…or he’s starting to feel pressured.

But if you feel like you’re doing all the work here, I suggest taking a step back. Don’t make yourself too available. He may be feeling pressured about the situation given his relationship with your brother, so let him come to you. And since you guys aren’t clearly dating, feel free to go out with another guy if you like. Maybe casually mention it to your brother. You’d be amazed at how fast this guy calls you. And if he doesn’t, shrug it off and do your best not to shoot laser beams out of your eyes next time your bro brings him around. Then again, I doubt this guy would have taught you to shoot a gun if he wasn’t planning on calling!

Good luck, my dear!

Erin

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10 Body Language Signs That Your Date is Into You

1. Your date is playing with their hair. Guys, this is especially true for women. We subconsciously want you to look at our pretty flowing locks and notice how attractive we are. If we start twisting hair around our fingers, it’s all systems go.

2. Raised eyebrows. A cocked or lifted brow can show interest. Think Angelina Jolie or Cary Grant.

3. A big open smile. You can't fake a full-mouthed grin. When your date is flashing you a genuine, broad smile and laughing enthusiastically, you know he or she is definitely having a good time.

4. An open stance. It may sound vulgar or weird, but when we're attracted to someone, we subconsciously stand with our pelvis facing that person. Ladies, if your guy's legs are spread wide apart, chances are he fancies you.

5. The open palm. The more open a person’s body is, the more open they are to your charms. If your date holds out an open palm, they are showing you trust and letting you in.

6. The soulful gaze. Looking deep into your eyes is a sign of definite crushing. Let’s just hope they’re not holding your gaze too long, which can come off as creepy and uncomfortable.

7. Slouched shoulders. Slouched or rounded shoulders show a more comfortable posture, but more importantly, they could also be a subtle signal that your date is totally feeling you. Why? Because when we get the urge to embrace someone, our shoulders instinctively slouch down. So you should definitely keep an eye out for this move.

8. Soft touching. When a person is into you, they'll use just about any excuse to touch you. It could be a reflexive pat on the shoulder, a little squeeze of the elbow, a brushing of the hand or knee…you name it. Sometimes people will even use high-fives or challenge you to a playful arm-wrestling contest, just to have an excuse to touch you without coming off as creepy. And if your date mentions the size or texture of their hand, or points out a blemish on their hand, look out. That's code for "I want you to touch my hand."

9. Close contact. You should also note how closely your date positions their body next to yours. Are they sidled up close to you, indicating availability and interest? Or are they outside of arms length, so far away that a bystander might not even realize that the two of you are together? If it’s the latter, this distance is a sign that your date is not interested in you, and wants to avoid the possibility of touching you. It’s harsh, but it happens. You may also note how you seat yourselves when at a restaurant. If you’re seated at a four-top, does your date take the seat to your left or right, or the seat opposite you? In my experience, sitting next to me, rather than across from me, indicates more interest. It’s more intimate, and is more conducive to accidental (or, let’s be honest) not-so-accidental touching. On your next date, try positioning your chair at a 45-degree angle, so that you’re leaning in towards your date. This feels more conspiratorial and intimate. Facing them straight-on can feel clinical, confrontational, and formal, like a job interview or a trip to the principal’s office.

10. The lean-in. Now, observe how your date is sitting. Are they turned toward you, leaning in? Or are they leaning back and away from you like you have swine flu? The first position signals interest. The second is a sign that you have a bad date on your hands.

Get more body language tips with Dating Dossier: Body Language.

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Need a little friendly advice for your relationship woes? Sick of hearing self-help experts wax on about loving yourself and getting in touch with your inner self when all you really want is to go on a date that doesn't end in tears and a restraining order? Check out Dating Dossier, a five-part audiobook series that delivers dating and relationship advice - covering everything from first date style to body language and confidence - sans the lovey-dovey psycho-babble. It's real advice for real people...fun, witty, and brutally honest.

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Dating Dossier: Confidence

How great would it be to come across as cool, calm, and collected on your next date? How exciting would it be to look confident and poised, even when you're not feeling it? With these incredible techniques, you'll be amazed at the FUN you have and how many more people you start to meet. Follow these rules of ATTRACTION, and who knows, you might even find LOVE.

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Dating Dossier: Body Language

When you listen to this incredible new audiobook, you'll start sending the right signals to attract others and draw them in. You'll find out which body language trick is an instant APHRODISIAC, discover a fool-proof technique for looking CONFIDENT, and you'll even learn some CHEEKY moves to seal the deal! Follow these rules of attraction, and who knows, you might even find LOVE.

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Dating Dossier: Flirting in the 21st Century

You no longer just buy someone a drink - you poke them on Facebook or send them an IM. But are you savvy enough to play the love game successfully with these modern dating tools? Follow the 21st-century rules of ATTRACTION in this FUN, no-nonsense audiobook, and who knows, you might even find LOVE.

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Dating Dossier: Style

Wow your date with sexy and sophisticated outfits that make you look like a million bucks. It's time to up your style game by learning how to dress for your body type, highlight your best features, and even discover the best underwear for when that third margarita turns into a surprise sleepover!

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Dating Dossier: 10 Mistakes

Are you your own worst enemy when it comes to dating? Stop sabotaging your love life by pinpointing major relationship buzz-kills so you can avoid them on future dates and have FUN finding the perfect partner!
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Announcing the Launch of Dating Dossier

Dating Dossier Audiobook Series Launches

5-part series offers witty, frank advice on body language, confidence, dating mistakes, and more.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Singles have a new place to turn for dating advice—served with a dose a humor and tell-it-like-it-is frankness. With the launch of Dating Dossier, a five-part audiobook series now available on iTunes and Audible.com, author Erin Donnelly is dishing out real, no-holds-barred dating advice for real people on a variety of relationship topics.

Narrated by Ali Wheeler and produced by London’s Puttenham Ltd., Dating Dossier includes five 30-minute audiobooks:

-10 Dating Mistakes: Common blunders that sabotage your love life, and how to derail them.

-Body Language: Sexy and confident non-verbal cues that will help you send the right signals on a date.

-Confidence: Relaxation, body language, and visualization techniques to help you calm those nerves and wow your date.

-Flirting in the 21st Century: Tips for turning Facebook, Twitter, texting, and IM into modern-day dating tools.

-Style: Dressing for dating success—plus 10 style turn-offs to avoid.

Each audiobook features real-life examples, giving listeners a clear image of tried-and-true dating strategies. The audiobooks are also free of the condescension and lovey-dovey psychobabble indicative of traditional self-help guides. Think of it as a confidence-boosting pow-wow with your best gal pal—a conversation that’s sure to leave you feeling invigorated and ready to take the dating world by storm.

The Dating Dossier audiobooks are available for purchase on iTunes for $2.95 apiece, and at Audible.com for $6.24 apiece.

Based in London, England, Erin Donnelly is an American-born Style Editor and resident dating blogger for SingleMindedWomen.com and Dating Dossier.com. A frequent contributor to AOL’s Lemondrop.com, she has also written for publications such as Women’s Wear Daily and Bust.

For more information or to schedule an interview, please contact:
Erin Donnelly
PH +44 (0) 7772169407
datingdossier@gmail.com