1. Your date is playing with their hair. Guys, this is especially true for women. We subconsciously want you to look at our pretty flowing locks and notice how attractive we are. If we start twisting hair around our fingers, it’s all systems go.
2. Raised eyebrows. A cocked or lifted brow can show interest. Think Angelina Jolie or Cary Grant.
3. A big open smile. You can't fake a full-mouthed grin. When your date is flashing you a genuine, broad smile and laughing enthusiastically, you know he or she is definitely having a good time.
4. An open stance. It may sound vulgar or weird, but when we're attracted to someone, we subconsciously stand with our pelvis facing that person. Ladies, if your guy's legs are spread wide apart, chances are he fancies you.
5. The open palm. The more open a person’s body is, the more open they are to your charms. If your date holds out an open palm, they are showing you trust and letting you in.
6. The soulful gaze. Looking deep into your eyes is a sign of definite crushing. Let’s just hope they’re not holding your gaze too long, which can come off as creepy and uncomfortable.
7. Slouched shoulders. Slouched or rounded shoulders show a more comfortable posture, but more importantly, they could also be a subtle signal that your date is totally feeling you. Why? Because when we get the urge to embrace someone, our shoulders instinctively slouch down. So you should definitely keep an eye out for this move.
8. Soft touching. When a person is into you, they'll use just about any excuse to touch you. It could be a reflexive pat on the shoulder, a little squeeze of the elbow, a brushing of the hand or knee…you name it. Sometimes people will even use high-fives or challenge you to a playful arm-wrestling contest, just to have an excuse to touch you without coming off as creepy. And if your date mentions the size or texture of their hand, or points out a blemish on their hand, look out. That's code for "I want you to touch my hand."
9. Close contact. You should also note how closely your date positions their body next to yours. Are they sidled up close to you, indicating availability and interest? Or are they outside of arms length, so far away that a bystander might not even realize that the two of you are together? If it’s the latter, this distance is a sign that your date is not interested in you, and wants to avoid the possibility of touching you. It’s harsh, but it happens. You may also note how you seat yourselves when at a restaurant. If you’re seated at a four-top, does your date take the seat to your left or right, or the seat opposite you? In my experience, sitting next to me, rather than across from me, indicates more interest. It’s more intimate, and is more conducive to accidental (or, let’s be honest) not-so-accidental touching. On your next date, try positioning your chair at a 45-degree angle, so that you’re leaning in towards your date. This feels more conspiratorial and intimate. Facing them straight-on can feel clinical, confrontational, and formal, like a job interview or a trip to the principal’s office.
10. The lean-in. Now, observe how your date is sitting. Are they turned toward you, leaning in? Or are they leaning back and away from you like you have swine flu? The first position signals interest. The second is a sign that you have a bad date on your hands.
2. Raised eyebrows. A cocked or lifted brow can show interest. Think Angelina Jolie or Cary Grant.
3. A big open smile. You can't fake a full-mouthed grin. When your date is flashing you a genuine, broad smile and laughing enthusiastically, you know he or she is definitely having a good time.
4. An open stance. It may sound vulgar or weird, but when we're attracted to someone, we subconsciously stand with our pelvis facing that person. Ladies, if your guy's legs are spread wide apart, chances are he fancies you.
5. The open palm. The more open a person’s body is, the more open they are to your charms. If your date holds out an open palm, they are showing you trust and letting you in.
6. The soulful gaze. Looking deep into your eyes is a sign of definite crushing. Let’s just hope they’re not holding your gaze too long, which can come off as creepy and uncomfortable.
7. Slouched shoulders. Slouched or rounded shoulders show a more comfortable posture, but more importantly, they could also be a subtle signal that your date is totally feeling you. Why? Because when we get the urge to embrace someone, our shoulders instinctively slouch down. So you should definitely keep an eye out for this move.
8. Soft touching. When a person is into you, they'll use just about any excuse to touch you. It could be a reflexive pat on the shoulder, a little squeeze of the elbow, a brushing of the hand or knee…you name it. Sometimes people will even use high-fives or challenge you to a playful arm-wrestling contest, just to have an excuse to touch you without coming off as creepy. And if your date mentions the size or texture of their hand, or points out a blemish on their hand, look out. That's code for "I want you to touch my hand."
9. Close contact. You should also note how closely your date positions their body next to yours. Are they sidled up close to you, indicating availability and interest? Or are they outside of arms length, so far away that a bystander might not even realize that the two of you are together? If it’s the latter, this distance is a sign that your date is not interested in you, and wants to avoid the possibility of touching you. It’s harsh, but it happens. You may also note how you seat yourselves when at a restaurant. If you’re seated at a four-top, does your date take the seat to your left or right, or the seat opposite you? In my experience, sitting next to me, rather than across from me, indicates more interest. It’s more intimate, and is more conducive to accidental (or, let’s be honest) not-so-accidental touching. On your next date, try positioning your chair at a 45-degree angle, so that you’re leaning in towards your date. This feels more conspiratorial and intimate. Facing them straight-on can feel clinical, confrontational, and formal, like a job interview or a trip to the principal’s office.
10. The lean-in. Now, observe how your date is sitting. Are they turned toward you, leaning in? Or are they leaning back and away from you like you have swine flu? The first position signals interest. The second is a sign that you have a bad date on your hands.
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